A video of Will Smith talking about marital problems with Jada Pinkett Smith has resurfaced, with the actor making references to the possible reasons why his wife had an affair with singer August Alsina.
The Smith’s marriage has been under the spotlight in the past few days, with Jada coming under particular scrutiny for her recent confession that she had an “entanglement” with Alsina, who is 21 years her junior.
In the video Smith, who is walking through a golf course, spoke candidly about love and entrusting one’s happiness on another person.
“Love. I asked her what was one of the biggest revelations she had had about love. She said, ‘You cannot make a person happy.’ I thought that was a real deep idea,” Smith recalled.
“You can make a person smile, you can make a person feel good, you can make a person laugh, but whether a person is happy is deeply, utterly and completely out of your control.”
Smith confessed that he had told his wife to go and make herself happy.
“I remember the day I said to Jada, ‘I retire. I retire from trying to make you happy. I need you to go make yourself happy and just prove to me it’s even possible.”
The actor confessed that the couple had gotten over the naive notions of love they had when they got married.
“What we realised is that we were two completely separate people on two completely separate individual journeys and that we were choosing to walk our separate journeys together.
“But her happiness was her responsibility and my happiness was my responsibility.
“And we decided that we were gonna find our individual, internal private separate joy and then we were going to present ourselves to the relationship and to each other already happy.
“Not coming to each other begging with our empty cups out demanding that she fills my cup and demanding that she meets my needs.
“It’s unfair and it’s kind of unrealistic. And it can be destructive to place the responsibility for your happiness on anybody other that yourself.”