Unresolved grief over mother’s death behind Kanye’s meltdown
Ulysses Blakeley, the man who raised Kanye West and was a key part of his formative years growing up in Chicago, says the rapper’s latest meltdown is due to unresolved grief he still harbors following the death of his mother 13 years ago.
According to Blakely the death of his mother, Kanye’s pillar of strength for most of his life, and distance from childhood friends had resulted in the rapper’s isolation and trauma.
Kanye’s behaviour has become increasingly unhinged in recent days, as he continues his estrangement from wife Kim Kardashian while continuing his unlikely campaign for presidential office.
The 69-year-old, who still lives in Kanye’s home city of Chicago, told The Sun: “I saw Kanye from the beginning and really have nothing but love and positive feelings for him.
“I’m distressed to see him in distress. I actually haven’t seen any of the clips or excerpts, but heard about his breakdown. It seems to be a sort of profound, unresolved grief. He feels some isolation.
“If his mother was around, which of the other things in his life wouldn’t have happened, or would have happened differently? (He’s missing the) large family framework, which sustains you when you have a tragedy like your mother suddenly dying.”
Blakeley was the first man Kanye’s mother, Donda, dated after divorcing West’s father Ray. He forged a close relationship with a young West, Donda and her son their first home on South Shore Drive in Chicago. However, the two have not had any contact since Kanye’s late teens.
“He went into an adult and clearly competitive world at 18 I don’t know that he was prepared for that. That was the last time I had any contact with him at all,” said Blakeley. Part of the problem is that if you are special you don’t form relationships like other people because you are so different.
“There is some value in personal contact in long-term continuity. You gain the understanding that people are in your life for you, not because of what you have and what you can get for them. It doesn’t appear that he has a long-term continuity that everyone else has.”
A close family and friendship structure, Blakeley said, was what was missing in the rapper’s life. In comparison, the Kardashian had maintained ties with those they knew in their formative years.
“It doesn’t matter how showbizzy the Kardashians are, they’ve still got continuity from birth until now. The same people are still around them. I don’t know that there is that for Kanye.
“Everyone needs people who knew their mother from way back then, to talk with them, and transition through the loss of that person.
“If the people, who’s comforting you didn’t know your mother, never met your mother, then their ability to bridge your emotional state from having her, and then not, is impaired.You are kind of isolated in some way.”
Blakeley also laughed off West’s presidential bid.
“It’s one of those things said in jest and because you have resources and people to make things come true and bring into existence. You tell them: ‘Yeah, I meant that’. So, they act on what you said, even though when you said it, it’s s** and giggles. Because you have a couple hundred million, it becomes a thing, not because you have political instincts or feelings.”